It wasn’t until recently I realized that I have been fronting with my confidence. This eureka moment trigger upon reading a young lady’s testimony about her insecurities with her hair,
When I first big chopped I had such a difficult time adjusting and accepting my short kinky hair. Sure I got compliments on how great I looked with the cut but it didn’t really register or matter because it was not what I believed…
I always felt the need to girlyfy my look with this short hair which is typical because most ladies with Twa’s take this approach as well. I used huge earrings and makeup as a crutch to conceal the less than beautiful appearance I held with the cut. Therefore makeup, earrings, skirts and scarf were like my limbs. As long as I felt comfortable with what I had on the TWA didn’t matter to me. I flaunted like it was nobody’s business.
I had the whole world believe that I loved my look…and guess what?
In turn, I grew to love it!!
Pseudo confidence is a device we use to ease ourselves out of situations that we feel uneasy about. Some may call us posers but “fake it till you make it” is an actual reinforcer we use to validate our actions so that others don’t sense fear. This result in us subconsciously buying into whatever it is we are coaxing.
Call me a pretender if you wish but I am only exercising my ability to persuade myself in being comfortable with appearances and other non comforting situations (like public speaking for some).
